Defendéte To The Verbal Attacks PT1Sunday 29th of January 2012 07:30:07 PM
Hello, the other day I read a book "how to defend the verbal attacks" and found me very interesting above all how easy that is left to the other with the words in the mouth, is quite large then decided to make this summary.
People who are accustomed to verbally attack (people bitch), they do not attack people who see it with a powerful image, like abusing to people with weak appearance, and weak appearance does not mean being weak. To build a powerful image please note the following tips:
* Straight back
* Relaxed shoulders
* Exercises eye contact
* Know say that not
* Put limits to people
* Break with relationships that do not suit
In the end does not have authority.
1 The coat of arms
First that nothing steers to your state of mind does not depend on what say you others, neveryou step when you were verbally attacking you put tense and only thing that you salia was insult?, that is why that not you got cool head, with a mental this is cancelled, for that is like an "airbag" before the attacks.
Construction of the mental :
1 Remember a situation in which, the calm, you mantuviste is to immerse yourself in this situation and that verbal attacks bounced like a ping pong ball.
2 Imagine the protective protects you from attacks, each attack bounces, this will make you calm and you can respond to the verbal attack quietly.
3 Imagine that the is something like the glass of the banks, which you can hear and see what happens but, however, these covered.
4 Put it a sentence of Fund to , e.g.: "that's something else", "this has to do with me".
Note: This above all is used to being in a State of tranquility, the encouragement of others does not affect you and also you have the time to reply to any attack, then I'll tell as answer to attack depends on the type.
2 Defend ourselves to the verbal attacks:
I now as an index that respond to the verbal attack and below will explain each one, perhaps they don't understand what I'm saying now, continue to fall and will understand:
/ >1 - Stop PROVOCATIONS and dodge the HDP:
1A - the aggressor
1 c-comment monosyllabic
2 IMPACT BUT WITHOUT WANTING TO CREATE A DISCUSSION:
2B - assign and consent
2 c - the compliment
(Part 2 coming soon) 3 - TE attack in middle of something important, to return to the issue:
3B - adoption with perseverance
3 c - Claro
3D - define the rules of game
4 - TO STOP AN ARROGANT HDP:
4A - confrontation
1A - the aggressor
This is the simplest of all step as the only thing you have to do is ignore it, changing to another theme, very easy.
1b- Silent GESTURES
Aim: You say not a single word do silent gestures
Attack of the HDP: Get you everything wrong!
Comment MONOSILÁBICO: "Wink"
* Welcome with your head as if cross an old friend
* I opened my eyes as if they were aliens, imitating the fat of the image
* Grabs a pen and a paper and I wrote the aggressive comments (terrific en)
* I smiled as if you had happened as a download from Megaupload.
* It does (feel like Yoga) breathing exercises
* Looks at the HDP as if someone strange (that's suspicious)
Application: For anything in the world to justify that as these doing even for the HDP shows signs of rarity, not spend energies to fart.
1c- MONOSYLLABIC comments
Aim: Meet the attack with few syllables
Attack of the HDP: You got ugly legs!
MONOSYLLABIC COMMENTS:"That thing!"
Examples: "You see" - "Mira Vos" - "I see" - "What a shame" - "Don't tell me" - "Ahh"
Application: It is to save energy, it is ideal for those who remain silent and without that saying
2a- Inappropriate saying
Aim: Respond with a saying that does not have nor puta to do with what he says
Attack of the HDP: So you go to the gym if you never lower belly
Inappropriate saying: It is as they say God praying and deck giving (the face of wtf you'll get is awesome lol post which is one of my favorites)
Examples: I did not break the balls search Internet sayings, besides if you leave a mixture of two proverbs no matter while more watefaico be better eg: "hard bread to take water"
Application: Use it when you have no desire to give back, leave it to the hdp thinks that fuck you you mean
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2b- Yield and consent
Aim: The HDP always wants to be right, then that is what we do
Attack of the HDP: You have a horrible aspect, slept on the street?
Consent: If that makes you feel , you have reason
Examples: You got why do you feel better? -If need you I agree with you, etc.
Application: Use it only when you're sick of the attacks of the HDP, but care only gives the reason in cases where you do not perjudiques you.
2c- The COMPLIMENT
Aim: Checkmate to the HDP, only praising and admiring it.
Attack of the HDP: That being the case never you will succeed.
The COMPLIMENT: I admire your wisdom.
Examples: I love how you link words - thanks for your advicewonderful - impressed me deeply.
Application: While more exaggerated is the compliment more efficient strategy.
Good people this to been all for part 1, part 2 to see the other 7 reactions and also some few tips, a greeting Grande and to discussions.